The four most important things you can do to fall in love
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There's a couple of things you can do to help increase your chances of finding the right person and fall in love. Here's a couple of tips to help: 1. Meet people repeatedly and often Do you believe in love at first sight? More than half of all people do (56%), although, in reality, it happens to only 11% of us. Have you ever wondered why people have a tendency to fall in love with and marry people who look like themselves? It is because we are attracted to features that are familiar to us - and the most familiar features happen to be the ones that we see and experience around us. The more often we meet people, the more often we see their faces, the more attractive we'll find them. Is this the secret to finding love? Yes and no. It does not guarantee success, but you are setting up opportunities to find love. Create as many different opportunities as possible to meet people regularly (work, recreation, place of residence). Be involved in activities you love or could love, because it is far more likely that you meet like-minded people there. Meet with them regularly and repeatedly and chances are that they grow to like (and perhaps love) you. 2. Look at life from a new perspective Did you know that major life changes - good or bad - increase the likelihood of falling in love? The reason is that arousal is the elixir of love. We are far more likely to fall in love after or during life altering changes. Loosing that job might be a real blow to your self-esteem and finances, but chances are that you might also meet the love of your life. Going for your special trip might be what you have always wanted, it might also be your chance to find new love. But you don't have to experience dramatic events in your life. There are other ways to elicit strong emotions. Go dancing - it is one of the most successful leisure activities you can do to facilitate falling in love, because the physical arousal caused by dancing together coupled with emotional arousal caused by listening to music or to words of a song you like, will make you receptive to love. People do not automatically fall in love when dancing or listening to favourite music, of course, but if other requirements, such as appearance, age, social class and education of the other person 'fit', chances are very high that you fall in love. If you don't like dancing, try playing tennis, hiking, aerobics, jogging, trips abroad, stimulating classes, acting classes, action movies, exciting concerts, spiritual journeys. If you look for love, make sure that you choose activities that favour the opposite sex and the appropriate age. 3. Make people feel good We love those who make us feel good. Put yourself in a good mood, even artificially. Smile, and smile often. We are attracted to happy faces. Spread good news. It is such a primordial need to feel good that, strangely enough, we even like the person who is around us when we hear good news, even though the person is not responsible for our good mood. 4. Look for those who are as attractive as you are Luckily for most of us, we are not attracted to the outstanding beautiful, but to the perfectly symmetrical, average beautiful. There is evidence that we choose lovers who are similarly attractive to us. The advantage is that this will lead to greater satisfaction in a relationship and guarantees greater success for the relationship. Research shows, however, that at least during the first crucial seconds when we meet someone, appearance does play a role in whether we are attracted to someone or not. What do we generally find beautiful? Men find a baby face with big eyes, a little nose and a little chin attractive or a sexy woman with high cheekbones, high brows, wide pupils, full lips and a big smile. Other studies for female attractiveness suggest: a low waist to high hip ratio in women. Women prefer men with a moderate body build and moderate to tall height and an erect posture. They like a narrow waist and broad chest and shoulders, which is interpreted with physical strength and fittness. Furthermore, women like males with deeper voices, less body hair, a strong nose, a high forehead, a strong chin and a light stubble. We automatically assume that what is attractive to look at, must be good. We know that attractive people have better social skills, more friends, are better communicators with members of the opposite sex, have a more active sex life. They also tend to have better jobs, make more money, and are generally more satisfied with life. Yet despite the importance of beauty in attraction, beauty does not guarantee happiness and love. Very beautiful people are often are viewed as snobs, materialistic and unfaithful. Attractiveness can also cause envy, distrust and hostility in members of one's own sex. Beauty also tends to fade with time. Good looks are also not always good for self-esteem. They can also create exceptional jealousy, because the less attractive partner feels threatened, and with good reasons, by the many admirers around the beautiful partner. Medica Pura |
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